Homeschooling and sex education

Real stories
Jack, from Texas, USA, was homeschooled and never really learnt about sex. Read on for his story…

I’m Jack, I’m from Texas, and I was homeschooled from preschool until the end of my freshman year of highschool. Every time I tell someone I was homeschooled, I really do mean every time, they immediately respond by asking me “how fun was that?” or “did you enjoy it?”. Unfortunately, I still don’t have a simple answer to that question.

When you homeschool in Texas, there are two rules: teach mathematics and teach good citizenship.

There’s a significant amount of freedom when it comes to education and the subjects you teach, I might even say too much. In a southern state such as Texas, religion is a huge part of life, and religious folk in Texas only have one word to say about sexual education: abstinence.

Less than a decade ago, government schools in Texas still taught abstinence only sexual education and were reluctant to even mention contraception and safety during sex (because you’ll be waiting until you are married, or course!).

While Government mandates have introduced sanity to the sex-ed courses in public schools, sex-ed in homeschooling remains unsupervised and unenforced. So, due to all of this, you could say my sexual education was…lacking.

In my house, the subject of sex was avoided at all costs; I can recall only one instance when my parents addressed sex.

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I was 9 years old and a relative of mine had just gotten pregnant, this prompted “the talk”: Man really loves a woman, man has this, woman has this, and BAM! a baby appears.

It was about as in-depth as a puddle, but if I’m perfectly honest, I have to say that I was insanely relieved when “the talk” was over, because to this day it sticks in my mind as one of the most awkward experiences of my life.

From then on, the subject of sex was never mentioned again. After my freshman year of highschool I started going to a regular school and l was quickly brought up to speed on sex-ed.

This is the plight of the average American homeschooler: how can you question an ideology when it is the only one that you have known?

Feature image credit: Ian T. McFarland

Have you ever been homeschooled? How did you learn about sex?